Deaddog

things better and share responsiblitlies (because I pay all the rent and all the util. She buys dinners and some groceries)

Maco

I've heard this advice over and over again, but I think it's largely inaccurate and even harmful. There are plenty of reasons why she might not pursue her ex - for one, he lives thousands of miles away. Maybe she can't afford to live with him, the ex can't afford to support her if she were to move in, etc. Any number of variables. Maybe it's more worth it for her to emotionally invest in him, get the physical and emotional interaction with the OP, plus his 'jealousy' to fuel a self-esteem boost in her, and keep her life intact by staying exactly where she is?

Sutured

Enjoys travel and the sea. Happy to relocate and settle somewher.

Hounded

Hi..my name is michael garrett am a gay and am proud to be one. have been single for 5 months have never try dating online before i just want to know what it feel likes and if it works out good am.

Berlin

You have the right attitude about this. Go find a guy who can make time for you and who knows how to manage his time and priorities. Even if you do get to go out with this guy sometime this week, your future outings could be few and far between since his first choice for companionship is his desk at work.

Silverwood

That seems to be uniquely male, the whole "play the field" thing.