Scotian

So, she was a friend of a friend and I was talking to her in a group setting. I guess in my head I am thinking that a girl who is friendly/nice might always have guys assuming that she is "interested" in them and that I didn't want to be one of those guys.

Sabered

- You walk or move in a way that catches people's attention.

Deoxyribonucleic

He's giving you the silent treatment. It's pure manipulation meant to take revenge on you. Only emotionally immature people use the silent treatment. Anyone with a bit of integrity and self-respect would simply indicate to the other person he's in need of some time alone BEFORE closing his/her phone.

Disgraced

Hi. I am looking for something serious I'm looking for a man not a boy that we can grow and and build a future together I love to travel I love to go out and grab a quick snack I'd like to sit at.

Crimper

absolutely gorgeous

Larutan

Dear Laurynn, No, I don't think so. I don't think you qualify for idiot status. I think you encountered someone who has mastered the introduction, who knows how to present an attractive facade that any intelligent, rational person would find appealing. Seeming sincere, self-aware, responsible & generous. All very good qualities. And to some extent he actually does possess them, right? It's just not consistent. And at first it can throw you off the scent of the less desirable things he exudes (like self-aborption, superficiality, you know better than I). It took you several weeks to see through that. Maybe -- I don't know but maybe -- there were a couple of vague warning signs you could have picked up on. Like the fact that he came on so strong so quickly. He'd made up his mind about you (or seemed to) pretty fast, hadn't he? A lot of intense togther time. Gives you less time to step back and take real perspective, and gets you sucked into the whirlpool of emotion and hope. I doubt that's deliberate on his part (the effect on you I mean), it's probably just how he deals with relationships: throw himself in, thrash around for a while, jump out before he ever learns how to swim. I don't really see how you could have been expected to know that this guy is actually a grade-A flake. Which he definitely seems to be. You've been questioning the process all along and although you're already emotionally engaged (and therefore hurting) you didn't get too enmeshed in this. I think you did very well all things considered. It takes some of us much much longer to get out of the clutches of a monster of indecision & selfishness. Took me four years! The problem I've found with monsters of indecision & selfishness is that they rarely understand themselves that that is what they are, they lack self-awareness, and they need to believe that they are good and that their actions are perfectly rational. Your guy is always going to present his position as if it were the only reasonable way to see things, he will have no problem saying one thing and doing another, for "feeling" things (do such monsters feel the emotions they profess?) but not allowing such feelings to guide their actions. I'll bet you are a strong intelligent & independent person. What has tripped you up is not an aggressor but a passive agressor -- and perhaps you weren't on the lookout for that. I'm sorry to hear it. But you'll get away quickly enough I'll bet, now that you see him for what he actually is. In truth he's pretty pathetic and laughable. What an idiot -- him I mean, not you!

Marilyn

It's like this: you don't know if your wife is secretly having a lover climb in through the bathroom window and have sex with her every time she supposedly "goes to the bathroom." So really, you ought to take the bathroom door off the hinges. If she has nothing to hide, it won't bother her.

Florin

Acup... I want your computer. I don't care how fast or slow it is, but I just want your hard drive. Your name comes up more than any one else's. Keep up the good work!

Scaramouch

I truly am in love with him. I am completely remorseful and do not know what to do. I cannot lose him, and we are planning to get engaged soon (within a year).

Potable

ibt4me: I totally have to agree with you